I find it interesting when I talk to people about vacations. Some folks just “go with the flow.” No need to plan where they are going to stop, “there will be a place somewhere!” No need to get tickets ahead of time, “there will be a seat available!”
Others plan every hour and second of their time away from home. They have hotel and restaurant reservations. They have tickets, in hand, for various events they want to see or in which they want to participate. And, they have maps galore including the most up-to-date GPS program available.
I suspect that most people are a combination of these two extremes, but I am mostly a “planner” while my husband is more of a “go with the flow” guy. It makes for some interesting times.
We had two children in college at the same time. They both were in out-of-state schools, each about 7 hours away from our home but in opposite directions! This did not create too much of a problem until the year when Parents’ Weekend was held on the same date for both schools. Normally we do things together, but given the circumstances, I went to our daughter’s school and my husband went to our son’s school.
Since we were going in opposite directions, leaving at different times, it never occurred to me to make my husband’s hotel reservations. He made his own plans when he traveled for work so I didn’t think twice about his plans for this trip, especially since he was going to an area not far from his birthplace.
I planned my trip and even arranged for an Aunt to meet me in the small Indiana college town as a surprise for our daughter. I had started loading the car with things that she wanted for her dorm room when my husband asked: “Where am I staying tonight?” I responded: “I don’t know; where did you make your reservations?”
The blank look on his face was all the answer I needed. No reservations. “Well,” he said, “there are loads of rooms in the area.” So I headed for Indiana and he headed for Virginia. He knew the area well, in fact it had been his sales territory for a number of years, so I was not concerned about his ability to find lodging.
What neither of us knew was that all of the gazillion schools in northern Virginia had Parents’ Weekend at the same time. What he also did not know, but soon found out, was that no rooms were available in any of the hotels/motels near the VMI campus.
I, on the other hand, was safely booked into my hotel when I tried calling him on his cell phone. At that point in the day, he told me about all the Parents’ Weekend activities and mentioned that he did not yet have a room. He was confident that it would be easy to find one; he just had “not really looked”.
Later, he called to tell me that he found lodging – an hour away from the college and in the direction of our home. He was not in a regular room but in the hotel’s conference room. I then had a mental picture of a long table with all the chairs pushed in forming a fence with his sleeping form stretched out between the chairs, a book for his pillow. Rather like the Biblical Patriarch Jacob, I thought!
While he let me have that delusion for a while, later in the conversation he told me that the room had a sleeper sofa. There went the Jacob analogy!
Praise the Lord that He is sovereign. In our arrogance and sin, we think that we have our life all worked out, but we must remember that our life is always under His control, whether we plan and schedule or relax about the details. Job learned this millennia ago when he said:
“I know that you can do all things; no plan of yours can be thwarted.”
Moving into the New Testament, when Pilate said that he had the power to either free or crucify Jesus, Jesus corrected him:
“You would have no power over me if it were not given to you from above.”
In Proverbs 19:21 the writer says:
“Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the LORD’S purpose that prevails.”
I have to confess that my planning down to the infinite detail is something of which I must repent since it falls in the category of prideful sin. You know, something along these lines: “I’ve got this, Lord. You can take care of more important things!”
I further suspect that Bill’s relaxed attitude is much more like that which our Lord desires. Rest in His arms and let Him handle the details. I’m basing this on the teachings in Matthew chapter 6, a chapter which I commend to your reading.
In it, Jesus talked about anxiety and told His disciples, and us, not to worry about our life or what we are going to eat or wear. God knows what we need and He will work His will through us. At the end of the chapter, He says:
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”
Matthew 6:33-34 ESV
Yeah, I believe that this supports my husband’s relaxed attitude about planning, and it is something that I have to cultivate in my own life on a daily basis.
Ultimately, both of us had marvelous times with the children on our respective Parents’ Weekends. Even when things seem to be hectic, helter-skelter, and going awry, God has even the tiniest details in His hands. What an incredible, caring and omniscient God we serve. What a glorious blessing it is to call Him “Father” through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Thank You, Father, for guiding us through the hurdles that we encounter in this world. Thank You for loving us and sending Your Son to be our Savior. Thank You for blessing us with Your Spirit as He teaches and encourages us along the way. Thank You that Your purpose always prevails, even when things seem out of control to our limited way of thinking!