Let me preface this post with the note that I am an unabashed dog person. We had a cat for 18 years and I loved him, but never felt as close to him as I have felt with our canine children. Therefore, it is from this perspective that I write this post. I certainly mean no disrespect to those of you who love felines!
As an only child, I had a friend that was a constant in my life for a long time – my dog named Tippy. She was all black, shaggy and soft, except for the white tip on her chin [hence, her name!].
She was my constant companion, confidant and comfort. She sat with me at the piano and endured horrible playing with gracious patience.
Doris Day is quoted as having said:
“I have found that when you are deeply troubled, there are things you get from the silent devoted companionship of a dog that you can get from no other source.”
I agree with her. Tippy would lay next to me on the sofa when I was ill and just provide comfort without saying a word!
I guess you could say that I have had a canine companion almost my entire life. Tippy has been gone for decades, but I still smile when I think of her. Other canine blessings have been Missy and her daughter Winnie. Here they are with my infant son many years ago.
Skippy who was the head puppy in charge, at least he thought so.
Glitz, Goldie and Sweetie were marvelous retired greyhounds who graced our presence with their stately tranquility and incredible speed. Goldie loved to travel in the RV:
Now we have our MinPins, Cuddles and Snickers, along with our granddog, Haley.
Of course Tippy was not my only friend, I did have some playmates who were even called “best friends”.
Now it is BFF – Best Friends Forever! That “Forever” may seem likely at the time we speak it, and some of those persons do remain friends for many years. Others, however, disappear from our lives but they leave imprints on our heart and spirit just the same.
With Facebook and other social media, we can have friends all over the world and never even meet them or speak to them in person. To my way of thinking, this takes the meaning of “friend” and stretches it so that it bears little resemblance to its meaning in decades past. But such is the reality for millions of youth today.
Scripture talks a great deal about friends.
Probably the best example of a real BFF is the friendship between David and Jonathan in the Old Testament. In 1 Samuel 17, David defeats Goliath and is brought before Saul as the victor in battle. The very next chapter introduces us to Saul’s son, Jonathan, and we read in 1 Samuel 18:1 that “the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” Their friendship continued for years, even through the time that Saul was hunting David to kill him, with the two men making a covenant between them that they would care for each other’s families if harm should come to them. 1 Samuel 20:42.
David remembered his covenant with Jonathan even after both Jonathan and Saul, his father, were dead. King David asked if any of Jonathan’s family were still alive and we read in 2 Samuel 9 of the story of David’s kindness to Mephibosheth, the crippled son of Jonathan, who from that day forward sat and ate at the King’s table.
We may not recognize the significance of this but in those days, all the family members of the preceding king were killed so that there would be nobody who could contest the validity of the kingship. Mephibosheth escaped this fate when his nurse took him and ran, hiding him far from the king.
In other words, it would be rare, indeed, for a son of a deceased king to sit at the current king’s table and to be brought under the care and protection of that king. But this is what happened to Mephibosheth because of the friendship King David had with his father, Jonathan. That’s a BFF!
While he was loyal to the covenant made with Jonathan, not all of King Davids friends were loyal to him, however. In 1 Chronicles 27 we read of Ahithophel, the king’s counselor and Hushai the king’s friend. Ahithophel was definitely not a BFF because he sided with David’s rebellious son in an attempt to take the throne from King David. Scripture tells of the pain David had when he turned into an adversary:
Even my close friend in whom I trusted, who ate my bread, has lifted his heel against me.
Sometimes friends betray us, and that is painful. For this reason, we tell the children that their friends are important. We tell them that the type of person they befriend can have an influence on them beyond just the immediate friendship. We tell them to choose their friends carefully because of the strong influence friends can have on them.
In Exodus we read of God’s relationship with Moses:
Thus the LORD used to speak to Moses face to face, as a man speaks to his friend.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have this type relationship with God, the Father Almighty, the Creator of the Universe?
Well, I have some news for you … the reality is that we can have this type relationship because of the sacrificial death of Jesus for our salvation. When the Holy Spirit is within us, we can even address the Almighty Creator God as Father. That is even closer than a mere friend!
Friends – we need them so that we can be socially healthy and so that we can live a full life. But, we need Jesus Christ so that we can have a relationship with God because in and of ourselves we are sinful and unable to even approach God, let alone please Him.
Praise God for our salvation; and praise Him too for the gift of Christian friends who encourage, support and love us in our good times and through our difficult times as well.
And praise God for the gift of our canine friends who love us unconditionally and who give of themselves in cheering us up, in grieving with us when we are hurt, in snuggling when we are ill, and in running with glee when we are happy. Oh that we as Christians would be as kind to others as our canine children are to us!
But we err if we think that is all that is required of us as followers of Christ. Rather, unconditional love is the initial threshold that Christian love should pass. Jesus’ love for us, and thus our love for our fellowman/woman, is to be sacrificial, not self-centered. When we love others as Jesus did, we will tell them the good news of the gospel and of the kingdom of God. And it all is to be to the glory of God, our Father.
Father, your kingdom is one of marvelous wonders and goodness. Thank you for the gift of canine friends, of feline friends, of the friendship of so many of your creatures in this world. Thank you also for the gift of Christian friends who show us Jesus in their love and service. May I be Jesus to others as I live through the power of your Holy Spirit.