FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT, Series Post No. 22
GENTLENESS – HUMILITY SHOWN IN MEEKNESS
What does Scripture say?
Humility means putting God and other persons ahead of our own personal selfish interests. Humility comes with the knowledge that God’s creation as a whole transcends our own narrow interests.
Humility will cause an individual to wholly subject himself to God. Even if God sends affliction or depressed circumstances, the humble person does not complain but expresses his gratitude for what God has decreed. The humble man says with Job, “Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him” (Job 13:15).
“The greatest among you shall be your servant. And whoever exalts himself shall be humbled; and whoever humbles himself shall be exalted.
How does this apply to my daily life?
- The humble person lives by the Golden Rule.
“Do to others as you would have them do to you.”
If we want to be loved, we must first give our love to others. If we want to be respected, we must first give respect to all persons, most especially to those persons we do not like. If we wish to be satisfied in our lives, we must first be generous toward others.
- Gentleness/humility affects our talk, both with regard to attitude and topic. Scripture confirms this in numerous passages:
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouths of fools pour out folly.
The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure brings forth evil.”
More specifically, when it comes to our talk, gossip is an act of hostility intended to harm someone’s reputation. We must avoid the temptation to misrepresent someone’s character or actions even if we are covering those acts with “Bless her heart!”
- Gentleness/humility also affects our speech and emotions in that the humble person will not respond in anger or revenge.
Instead of anger, the humble person’s reaction to life’s difficulties is understanding and empathy. An understanding attitude will settle the dispute and avoid turning a minor issue into a major confrontation. The humble demeanor is a perfect tool for avoiding disputes and hard feelings.
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
When we respond to anger with empathy and love, we can break the cycle of hatred and transform even our enemies into friends. Jesus recognized this when he gave us the unique command to love even our enemies:
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven.”
- Certain characteristics can be found win the humble man or woman.
The humble man or woman avoids ambitious behavior. She is not greedy for honor and does not desire to be above her neighbors. She does not take upon herself that which does not belong to her as if the earth ought to be subject to her bidding. On the contrary, she gives all due deference to the judgment and desires of others. Her behavior is consistent with Philippians 2:3:
“Let nothing be done through strife or vain-glory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves”
The humble man or woman avoids ostentatious behavior. If she has any advantage, ability or benefit over her neighbors, she will not make a show of it. In other words, she is not a Pharisee who, according to Jesus, did all their works to be seen of men.” Matt 23:5.
Rather, she knows that the impression others have of her is a small thing indeed. She is content that the God in Heaven sees what was done and she desires that He approve of her efforts.
The humble man or woman will not express scornful or belittling behavior. Treating others with scorn and contempt is one of the most offensive manifestations of improper pride toward them. The humble woman treats others with courtesy and friendliness – because she is aware of her own weakness before God, and she knows that it is God alone that makes her any different than others.
The humble will always have the spirit to “condescend to men of low estate” (Romans 12:16) and this is true even if the person is in a position of public trust and honor.
The humble man or woman will not exhibit willful or stubborn behavior. The humble man or woman will not be stiff and inflexible, and insist that everything must go according to what they happen first to propose. Further, the humble person will not make all the difficulty they can so as to make others uneasy if they do not get their own way.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;”
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
On the contrary, humility inclines men to have a yielding spirit to others, ready, for the sake of peace and to gratify others, to comply in many things with the desires of others, and to yield to their judgments when they are not inconsistent with truth and holiness.
A truly humble man is inflexible in nothing but in the cause of his Lord and Master, which is the cause of truth and virtue. In this he is inflexible, because God and conscience require it.
The humble spirit is desired by God and should be sought by the Christian. Peter said that this spirit is the richest of all ornaments: “even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price” 1 Peter 3:4.
We read in 1 Peter 5:5 that “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Regarding this verse, Jonathan Edwards says that in the original language, this means God “sets Himself in battle array against him,” In other words, the proud spirit is abhorrent to God! I certainly do not want God to fight against me!
Jesus – our Lord and Savior said:
“Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”
Gentleness/ Humility is the ornament of the spirit, the source of some of the sweetest exercises of Christian experience, the most acceptable sacrifice we can offer to God, the subject of the richest of His promises, the spirit with which He will dwell on earth, and which He will crown with glory in heaven hereafter.
Blessings to you and I pray that you will continue to walk with me as we learn about the fruit of the Holy Spirit and as we mature in our transformation into Christian believers who speak and act as Jesus did and who share in the passions that Jesus had for the lost sheep and for the worship of His Father, the Almighty God.